Adoption Update

2 is significant to us for a couple of reasons....

First - we've been "officially" waiting for 2 months! Once all of our paperwork was turned in our agency told us to expect a 3-8 month wait before receiving a referral (being matched with a child)....SO...two months down, 1-6 to go! We're definitely hoping that we receive a referral sooner rather than later, but we think it will be a while. So, we've settled in for the wait, trying to keep ourselves busy with projects around the house and work.

Luckily summer is a super busy time for both us - we'll spend more time in "other" places this summer than we'll spend in New Orleans. We're doing our best to stay focused on what God has for us now and not just to wish the months away....

The #2 is also significant to us because we recently called our adoption agency and told them we would be thrilled to take twins or a sibling set ! AHHHH! Crazy, huh? It's something that God laid on our hearts....obviously twins are fairly rare and our agency informed us that young siblings did not often come into their care, either....SO....we're not sure if we'll actually have two children placed into our family or not, BUT we are resting in God's plan, knowing that we were obedient in notifying our agency that we are open to more than one child. Now it's up to HIM! We'll be thrilled either way!

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Functional Orphans & Widows

Tonight I spent a couple of hours at Taylor Playground, a neighborhood park in Central City. For those of you familiar with New Orleans you know Central City is a neighborhood that is plagued with poverty and violence.

Each Wednesday a group from our church goes to the playground to serve food alongside a pastor who is planting a church in the neighborhood. The playground is usually teeming with people.

There are guys playing soccer and basketball...and there are kids EVERYWHERE! Tonight I struck up a conversation with Mia. She's three years old and cute as a button.

Before inviting Mia to trek across the park with me to get a plate of food I told her we needed to tell her mom where she was going. I was taken back by her response.

"I brought my own self over here."

"Ummm...You came to the park by yourself?"

"Yeah. I brought my own self over here."

This precious little girl might have a living parent or parents, but she is functioning in this world as an orphan. She is on her own. Three years old, in one of the roughest neighborhoods in the city and she "brought her own self" to the park tonight.

Although I don't know Mia's background, if she is like many in her neighborhood, her father is not involved in her life and she is being raised by her mother or her grandmother. They are likely functioning as widows with no one to help provide for their children.

America may not have 4.5 million orphans like Ethiopia, but women and children all over our nation are functional widows and orphans.

Maybe God has not spoken to your heart about adding to your family through adoption. But He calls us all to care for widows and orphans in distress. I submit to you that becoming involved in the life of Mia would be living out James 1:27.


(Another cutie pie in Central City...didn't get a pic of Mia....this photo was taken by Joe Fontenot - ahhhitsmyblog.com)


If you don't know a functional widow or orphan, I challenge you to get out of your comfort zone a little more - volunteer at an elementary school, a women's shelter, or another outreach ministry. Of course, if you live in New Orleans, The Care Effect has many opportunities that will put functional widows and orphans in your path.

But it will be up to you to take the next step....because Mia shouldn't have to look out for "her own self."

Let's Do the Possum Trot!

A Special Mother

Mother's Day is tomorrow and I can't help but think about the woman who gave birth (or will give birth) to the precious little boy who will become our son.

Based on solely on the fact that she lives in Ethiopia means her life has been anything but easy. All over Africa AIDS and Tuberculosis kill thousands. a. day. Thousands.

In Ethiopia, 1 in 14 women die in childbirth.

Her untimely and unnecessary death may be the cause of her precious baby's orphan status.

Or

If she lives through childbirth, she will give him life a second time by taking him to an orphanage.

She will make a mother's ultimate sacrifice to prevent her child from becoming one of the 24,000 children who die. each. day. due to poverty - unclean drinking water, malnourishment, preventable diseases.

I pray she knows Peace and Hope.

Obviously, adoption will not solve all of Africa's problems.

Ideally there wouldn't be 147 million orphans in the world today.
Ideally mother's could always feed and clothe their children.
Ideally famine and drought wouldn't devastate entire countries.
Ideally fraud and corruption wouldn't wreak havoc on governments and economies.

Ideally her son wouldn't become an orphan. We obviously don't live in an ideal world.

And while we know we can't change the world, we know we can change the world for one.

147 million minus one.
This Mother's Day we thank God for "Eli's" birth mother. We pray she knows Peace and Hope.

Why do "they" make international adoption so difficult?

This is a question we get A LOT. Often, its asked in a tone that alludes to some kind of mysterious conspiracy "they" developed to make sure children remain orphans.

The truth is, most countries want the best for their children. Some countries decide that allowing their children to be adopted by people from another country and culture is acceptable....others are not willing to do that.

Many countries even keep pretty close tabs on children that have been adopted. We will have to write a letter and send photos of our son back to Ethiopia EVERY year until he turns 18.

International adoption is "difficult" (requires much paperwork, parental education, and appropriate controls) because most countries do want their children to be well taken care of.

What could possibly be worse than growing up in an orphanage with no family, you ask. Well, THIS.

Devastating. Not only for this one child, but for many who are in orphanages waiting for families....and families who are waiting for their children.... Russia to U.S. adoptions are now in jeopardy.

This kind of situation is why international adoptions are so "difficult"...."they" are trying to make sure things like this don't happen to children.

It's worth it.

On a random note, check out this fun giveaway on another adoption blog.

In Ethiopia!!

Our paperwork, that is. This is big news. It means we have "officially" begun "the wait".

So, what exactly are we waiting on?? We're waiting on a referral (adoption speak for being matched with a child). Currently, the wait time for a baby boy is 3-8 months. We're hoping we'll get to see his cute little face in closer to 3 months rather than 8! My sweet Nana says she's already got him pictured in her mind...we see him in every little African face we come across.

After so many paperwork delays it feels good to be "officially" waiting. Hopefully we'll feel the same way a few months from now. 

Please remember to keep "baby Eli" in your prayers. We'll keep you posted on anything exciting that happens during "the wait".

I'll share another pic from Ghana - sweet little girl

Happy Easter!